Another round of Empath Yuckies (please send calm)

I have been getting the Empath Yuckies since I was a kid. I would start to feel like I was guilty and that I was afraid for no reason. That is how it started for me. I started questioning why I was feeling like this, digging through my memory for something I did wrong that I needed to rectify immediately so that feeling would go away. It wasn't until I was in my early 20's and worked for a very angry man that I realized I got really angry every time I was in the room with him, for no reason, that it wasn't my feelings.

Something that is very hard to explain to someone that hasn't experienced it, I don't just get the emotions of those around me. I physically feel them. When I'm talking with a person or a group and something is said that offends one of them it feels like I get snapped with a rubber band. When someone around me is made to feel really uncomfortable I get a pulling up my spine.

I tend to look at this all from a scientific perspective, so I recognize that the energy a person gives off changes with their mood. I can feel and gage that energy. Where most people walk right though it and feel nothing, for me it is like walking through a cloud of static electricity. We all know what static electricity feels like. Rub a balloon on your head. LOL

I've been working with my daughter to recognize her feelings and other people's feelings too. We've discovered she seems to have inherited most of my gifts. I am glad I can help her while she is so young though. Learning as you get older is really tough.

Recently I asked a question of a group of friends of mine. I feel really safe with this group so I don't usually shield very much when I talk to them. Mostly because they are my friends and if there is something they need me to see or be aware of, I want to be there for them. Well I was shocked at the response. I asked if anyone would discuss something with me that I thought was really interesting historically speaking. I know that the election is coming up, I get that people get very high strung when it comes to politics. But I have never attacked anyone over their political beliefs. I will attack someone that hurts my friends or family, but that is where I draw my line. In fact I have gone to bat and attacked for several of these friends. It was not anything they said, but I felt they expected that my intention was to attack political beliefs different from mine.

What I was hit with in response was so hurtful I actually called my best friend, cried and told her I didn't know if I could ever come back to these "friends." I suppose it is my own fault. Like I said I wasn't shielding, but I have always felt safe with this group. I was overwhelmed with such a strong and all encompassing hatred and anger, I have never felt anything like it. Physically I felt assaulted. I shut down. All the anger and hatred over the subject matter came barreling at me and ran me over.

I hunger intelligent conversation with adults and usually this is the group that I turn to. Now I'm questioning so much. Am I being led somewhere? Is this supposed to be a lesson for me to keep my shields up all the time? Maybe it's a lesson to them somehow? I wish these gifts came with a manual. If a psychic ever tells you they have it all figured out, they are a liar. 

For the last two weeks I have felt on edge and just plain sick to my soul. I keep waiting for an earthquake or some horrible natural disaster to hit to explain what I'm feeling. I think I finally figured it out. Maybe this is why I got the reaction I did to my request for conversation.

With the election coming up it really does not matter who wins. It doesn't matter what side of the isle you are on. The fall out from the election is going to be bad. On one side we have men and women ready to take up arms to protect the constitution, and on the other we have a large group ready to start rioting.

In my life time there has not been a time when the entire globe has been so over run with fear, hate, and anger. All this negative energy just feeds more negative energy.

So I have a favor to ask of anyone that might happen to read this. No matter what your political beliefs. Even if you aren't in the United States and the Presidential won't effect you. Please... everyone.... send out as much calming loving vibes as possible. We have to learn to keep our heads. The hate is winning, and personally it scares the hell out of me. I can feel it chewing my stomach and eating my brain.

Power of the Empathe

The empathe feels the emotions of others. This power is meant to guide by “listening” to these in need of aid. Once the ability is activated, its power can be difficult to endure. For the weak-minded every emotion will feel crushing. Ultimately, the fragile mind will collapse. Only through strong-will and control will you survive it.

 ~ The Conduit by Stacey Rourke ~

As a psychic I sometimes read books that have these abilities in them and I scratch my head. Where do authors get their ideas? Recently I read a wonderful book by Stacey Rourke, The Conduit. It is the first in The Gryphon Series. Many authors like to glamourize all things related to psychic abilities. This book by far is the closest to reality that I have ever read, in Celeste’s abilities she has to learn to use them, just as I did. Her first ability is as an Empath but she gets lots of other cool super hero type stuff too. LOL  This is an amazing series and I insist you all run and get your own copies as soon as possible! This is a fiction series but I love the fact that the psychic side hit so close to home for me. So I decided to ask Stacey how she came to write the Empath so well.

 

Can you tell us about the series?

It centers around a creature known as the gryphon. Three siblings are bound to him through a Celtic pact their ancestors made. Older brother Gabe gets the ability to shapeshift into a lion, little sister Kendall grows the wings of an eagle and Celeste, the middle child, is the Conduit of the Gryphon. He gives her whatever power she needs in life threatening situations, which is good considering there's an army of demons out to kill her.

 

How did you settle on the gifts of your characters?

It started with the pieces of the Gryphon-his lion side, his eagle side, the strength that defines him. But as I got to "know" the characters I realized the anger Gabe was harboring and I thought it would be interesting to make Celeste an empathe so she could learn something about someone so close to her that had been bottling his feelings up for way too long. He's in emotional turmoil, but no one really knows because he insists on being Mr. Macho. That idea intrigued me.

 

Do you know anyone with the gifts, or do you have any yourself?

 I have known people that are intuitive to a degree that really makes you wonder how much deeper that talent really lies, but that's about it.

 

I love your description of meditation in the first book. Do you meditate, or did you research it?

Actually I am very much Celeste in that scene. I have tried meditation...repeatedly. Unfortunately, just like Celeste, my inner monologue wouldn't shush long enough for me to appreciate it. I need to find my mental mute button.

 

Many authors put a piece of themselves in their books. What part of your books do you feel is a part of you?

My sarcasm, definitely. Also my willingness to sacrifice myself for those I love. I can totally relate to her feeling on that.

 

And finally how do you write the Empath so well?

I wouldn't call myself an empathe by any means, but I do feel I can tune into the emotions of others to some degree. For me it’s more physical cues and observation. I took that and amplified it by about a million. Where as some of us suffer a heart ache when we see someone we love suffering, what if we actually felt what they felt? If their pain became ours? Or to the other extreme to feel the giddy glee of another person? It would be so unsettling to have foreign emotions invading your body. I'm glad I captured it well!! Thank you!

 

I want to Thank Stacey again for visiting and letting me pick her brain. I have nothing but wonderful reviews about this series and you already know I love it! So go pick up a copy or two for yourself. And for those of you that picked up on it and wondered. Empath does have two different spellings. It's like color and colour. They are both right, it isn't repeated typos. LOL ;)

The Conduit on Amazon

Don't actually click the pic, it won't take you inside. LOL But if you go check out the Amazon page you can.

To check out a AWESOME give away for Stacey's book go to: Alli's Nook

Code of Ethics

I have my own code of ethics. I was curious if there was a "psychic code of ethics" out there. I was not at all surprised that everything I found was about taking money from people. I don't take money for readings, I only do them for friends and family. Mostly I just use my gifts for the lives around me. I only agreed with one of the listed ethics I found. The first on my list.

1. Never claim to be 100% correct.
2. NEVER "behave as if" or "fake it until you make it"
3. Don't look into someones life unless invited.
4. Don't use our own bias' or beliefs to taint a reading.
5. If you don't understand what your seeing, don't try to interpret it, just tell them what you're seeing.
6. Don't tell people what you know they want to hear.
7. Never use the gifts out of spite or anger.
8. If given the opportunity don't ignore the chance to help or protect others.
9. Do not pray on people's beliefs about evil.
10. Always hold confidences.

There is no such thing as a 100% accurate psychic. EVER. If they claim to be they are either a liar or completely delusional. Even if they get perfect information all the time, information sometimes comes in ways that is sometimes not for the reader to know, so it comes in a kind of code. I will see a scene or picture that will mean nothing to me. When I describe it to a person, they know exactly what I mean.

Many years ago I worked a psychic phone line and my supervisor told me to just start talking until the caller gave me hints as to what they wanted to hear. She used the words "fake it until you make it" and "behave as if." I think that is despicable. I have told people right off, "I'm sorry, I'm not getting anything." Sometimes it just is not the right timing for people to know. It is never okay to lie to someone coming to you for help.

A person with the gift should never go around looking into other's heads or lives. I believe that is right up there with rape. It is completely violating them. You don't do it with strangers and you don't do it with friends. If there is something I am "supposed" to know, my guides will tell me. I worked very hard to get my walls up so that things do seep in. I do occasionally loose control when I get very angry but that is why I don't get angry very often and never with friends.

The ones that can actually read someones desires or thoughts, I have seen them just pluck those out of people's heads and repeat them back to them. That doesn't make they psychic. That makes them a mind reader and a really horrible human being. A gifted person should never tell someone what they want to hear just to make them happy and get paid more.

One thing that I find unconscionable are those that will use the idea of evil to force others to keep returning to them for advice. Under threat of curses, or negative energy, or demons, they will hold people hostage. Even when people go into a home to feel out spirits, the ones that jump to "demons" are doing the world a disservice.

Mostly I think many psychics forget to use a sense of ethics at all. A sense of morals. If they would not like someone doing it to them, they shouldn't do it to others.